ONE KISS, ONE HUSBAND

This craze for a husband at all costs has got to stop. The indoctrination that a woman is incomplete without a man as a husband has got to stop too! First and foremost, the reason so many of us clamour for the husbands is to get that status symbol of “I am married”, you know how it is! When I saw the picture of naked well endowed single black women with a ‘pastor’ somewhere in the (Bahamas) kissing their arses so that they will get husbands by the seaside in the hot afternoon with on-lookers abi congregation members probably ‘speaking in tongues’ to scare the future husbands out of hiding, I was speechless and that’s a feat. Nothing had dumbfounded me in a long...

A POSSESSION TILL DEATH

Aunt Yetunde’s husband had been dead for 10 years now. I was just leaving university when he died and I could feel the pain of my four cousins losing a father, a parent who loved them. Luckily for Aunt, one was about to graduate university, two were in secondary school and the baby of the house was in primary school. Things weren’t quite easy for Aunt as she reared her children the best way she could. I sometimes wonder how she did it. I also wondered why she hadn’t remarried especially since in those 10 years Uncle Dare had lost his wife, dated, remarried and sired two children! I was proud of my mum as I heard her often check up on Aunt Yetunde. I felt comforted that if I was ever a widow, my in-laws would check in on me, make me feel less...

THE DEBATE-THE WOMEN SPEAK

The topic was random; it started off with the latest trend among young couples of sleeping in separate rooms. Apparently, it is a serious no-no for the couple to sleep apart except of course in a polygamous setting. Then the almighty topic of failing marriages came up and the discussion narrowed down the reasons to spoilt women and financial freedom. The discussion was evenly split. The ‘Women are spoilt’ group believed that our mothers’ level of tolerance was so high that they could catch their husbands in the act, calmly deal with the situation; by not dealing with the situation, carry on as if nothing happened and eventually record 40 years married! But the present generation of woman would have a fit and all hell would break loose if her man was as much...

A BED OF ROSES

Unfortunately we have been designed to need, want, depend and long for a significant other to ‘complete’ us. From the time our hormones kick in till they let us down, put us in trouble or make us delirious; we are on the prowl for who can fill that void and ache we feel somewhere inside of us. Majority of us have bungled this amazing mission of our lives. A number of unfair factors led to this sorry state of affairs. I say ‘unfair factors’ because as pawns in this game of chess called life; we are often clueless on which move to make, who and what to checkmate or even decide if that was a wise move. Invariably, this struggle, background, experiences, expectations shape us and often jade us. We then carry baggage with us around, harbouring mini-monsters...

40 THINGS A MAN SHOULD KNOW

I had looked for a book to parody like the women’s guide book of my previous post; I found none. I then wrote my own; feel free to parody, comment or even add.   That all action hero figures are just that; figures. How to pray; on the Last Day we are all pretty much equal women don’t change How to set realistic goals How to remember anniversaries, birthdays and St. Valentine’s Day! How to write a love letter That dirty socks don’t walk!!! That most women ARE better drivers; ok, let’s compare accident rates A few sure-fire ways to make his wife laugh 10. That being a gentleman is not a sign of weakness; rather a man who is secure and comfortable in himself and that is a huge turn-on. 11. Women are able to handle more problems at a time, because...

THE NEW FACE OF ADULTERY

This matter needs no elaborate introduction. As with every facet of human interaction that is currently undergoing radical and often times damaging transformation; the marriage bed has not been left out. There was a time when being caught in the sin of adultery was greeted with the fear it deserved. Well, times have radically changed. Going back in time, adultery was really about a married woman who slept with someone else other than her husband. A married man who slept with a single woman wasn’t in grave danger as the former situation. Remember the Woman caught in the act of adultery? the man was nowhere to be seen or accused; perhaps she was solo loving? Anyway, this slap-on-the-wrist attitude towards the man enjoying the spoils of his extra-curricular hunting...

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