MY LAST WILL AND TESTAMENT

Last week a potential business deal went awry. It started off so promising that it came as a surprise when we got to the ” not talking to you” stage.  Then it hit me: I understood what “suddenly” actually means. No warning and everything changes and that is what precisely happens to us all in life. There is nobody that had not been affected by “suddenly” no matter how innocuous the situation was.  Despite the experience of “suddenly” and seeing other people’s experience we fall prey to the aftermath. Yes, even “suddenly” falling in love can be avoided. Just look at the mess people become after it ends. Shouldn’t that be enough of a siren? But noooo, we prefer to believe bullshit like,...

DEATH AT ITS BEST

I was having a conversation with a friend and the old frightening word ‘death’ wandered into the conversation as I pointed out that she could die any moment soon and would have to explain in great detail to the Almighty why she has not forgiven her friend for ‘snatching’ her husband. ( this article is not about the ‘Delilah’ who ‘stole’ a man, it is about something more serious..). It was her sheer horror at the fact that I ‘suggested’ that she would die. She broke out into ‘forbidding’ death and it not being her portion type-like prayers. She is not the only one that goes into this trance. I don’t get it; what are people struggling to stay alive for? Two things; we already are crippled...

A LIFE OF IMPACT

I never read any of Myles Munroe’s books; never listened to him either. However, I was aware of him. I think I have two or so display picture quotes of his. That is about how much I knew him. I never met Chaz B that anchored ‘Life Issues’ on 94.7FM. I listened in on his programme if I switched on the radio and happened to hear him. That was as much as I knew him. I never met Dora Akiliyu yet I had to ask the question why really do the good ones die early and most times in pain or misery? I never met General Sani Abacha but he is for ever etched in our memory. Though his is a controversial choice but he made an impact no doubt. He could careless what the internationals thought and our economy was once more boosted. I never met Eva Peron or...

HOW TO BE A WIDOW

A woman’s life from birth has always hung in the balance; the balance of a man’s world. Her existence has always been subject to a man. In itself the concept of the man taking the lead in a woman’s life is fine. After all there cannot be two captains in a ship. The person who provides in all ways and protects should take the lead. Taking the lead does not mean control or ownership. This lack of understanding and selective conditioning has led to many a-frustrating life for many women. When a woman gets married, she leaves her family, he leaves his family to be joined together and form their own lineage. If you get the partnership right, the two of you are destined to be together till death. Losing a loved one is not an easy thing to come to...

A POSSESSION TILL DEATH

Aunt Yetunde’s husband had been dead for 10 years now. I was just leaving university when he died and I could feel the pain of my four cousins losing a father, a parent who loved them. Luckily for Aunt, one was about to graduate university, two were in secondary school and the baby of the house was in primary school. Things weren’t quite easy for Aunt as she reared her children the best way she could. I sometimes wonder how she did it. I also wondered why she hadn’t remarried especially since in those 10 years Uncle Dare had lost his wife, dated, remarried and sired two children! I was proud of my mum as I heard her often check up on Aunt Yetunde. I felt comforted that if I was ever a widow, my in-laws would check in on me, make me feel less...

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