GUIDE TO A THREESOME

I honestly didn’t appreciate the value of friendship till I got older. Sort of a slow learner in that respect. You would need to build a friendship over the course of time, let it mellow like fine wine and bubble like the finest champagne. All that sounds rosy but it takes hard work also. Friendship can be complex in such a simple way. The attraction, learning about each other, respecting boundaries, the fights, make-ups, the highs, lows, the misunderstandings, external interference etc. along the line in life there are friends you drop, and you don’t quite pickup new ones as you grow older. I have three sets of trio relationships. To make it in this life you must know what you need and what you can offer in each friendship you forge. I...

ROLLING IN THE DEEP

I She annoyed him. He couldn’t place his finger on what precisely annoyed him. He wasn’t sure if it was her confidence, or the way she took charge at the meetings or what he perceived as her nonchalant attitude towards him. Whatever it was, she annoyed him. Anyone that knew him, knew he was an easy going guy so the problem could not be him. He was the kind of guy who was generally tolerant of people and their quirks. What was worse, they had to work together. ‘Hi’ she said as she extended her hand for a handshake. He could remember when their principal introduced them to each other, he was quite indifferent to her. She was one of those plain Jane’s that further paled in comparison to the beautiful woman he had married. He compared all...

TO HELL WITH YOU, MY FRIEND

TO HELL WITH YOU, MY FRIEND ‘There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who won’t even jump puddles for you.’ This display message became the inspiration for this post. A very true statement up to ‘people’, the completion is what caught my attention. A number of questions came to mind. 1) Did anyone ask you or coerce you to ‘jump oceans’? 2) If ‘jumping oceans’ comes with the job description you signed up for, what’s the grumbling about? 3) What was your motive for deciding to’ jump over oceans’ in the first place? 4) What makes you judge your action as being an ‘ocean’ in the first place? 5) Is it possible the ‘non-puddle jumper’ might consider their other ‘doings’ as ‘oceans’? 6) Is it not only...

WHEN A FRIEND BETRAYS

The previous article on friends and friendships was all flowery, sweet and cheesy a times; well there are always two sides to a coin; this is the flip side. There is no wound that cuts deeper than betrayal from a friend. Wait. Yes, some are vigorously shaking their heads and saying; spousal betrayal is most painful or by a family member. Honestly, I don’t really get the drama when a spouse strays; yes, it is a form of betrayal but our society has forced us to bear it; making it tolerable and mainly a subject now. So we do the drama and live with it (erhmmm…this is really in favour of the men; you do remember that men don’t believe in what is good for the goose, is good for the gander!) Take for example your best friend rats your husband out. You do the...

THE ESSENCE OF FRIENDSHIP

Thankfully God made sure that as humans we would need each other. No man is an island is a favourite saying to sum it all up; whether it is in a marriage relationship, same sex platonic relationship, different sex platonic relationship, family relationships and the different mixes of relationships. As it is even with the longing for relationships, there some of us that move around as if we can truly do without relationships! So imagine if we didn’t have the need; the world would have been a cold, cold world. Friendship is simply identifying another human being to build up a relationship that speaks in all situations; good or bad. That friend that ‘gets’ you, let’s you be who you are without fear of being judged and misjudged, who is with you in all...

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