A TALE OF TWO WOMEN

Atinuke was sweating as usual when she got back into the office. She had complained two weeks ago that the air conditioner in her car wasn’t cooling effectively anymore. It was safe to assume that it still hadn’t been fixed. She barely had sat down when our supervisor walked into the office. She was certain he had it in for her; the Universe had been kind to her once more. It wasn’t my business why Atinuke always came to the office harried but today something piqued my curiosity. I noticed what must have been palm oil stains on her blouse and what looked like flour in her hair. She was oblivious. So I made it my business. This was no way for a Customer Service Executive in a prestigious firm to look. When she burst into tears, I remembered...

WHO IS A PROSTITUTE?

Someone(the someone being a man) coined a word “prostitute” and defined it as” a person, typically female who performs sexually for payment”. Another definition even adds two more names that further express the intent of the acts; a woman who engages in sexual intercourse for money; whore; harlot.” Great; now that we know what the definition is, who is a prostitute in practice. I have grown increasingly tired of men hurling the word at us in rage as the ultimate insult and debasing of a female. The day that a man ventured to call me a prostitute was the last time he did and it was the last time I viewed it as the ultimate insult. For him to know or perceive I was a prostitute, he had either encountered a few of them...

ONE KISS, ONE HUSBAND

This craze for a husband at all costs has got to stop. The indoctrination that a woman is incomplete without a man as a husband has got to stop too! First and foremost, the reason so many of us clamour for the husbands is to get that status symbol of “I am married”, you know how it is! When I saw the picture of naked well endowed single black women with a ‘pastor’ somewhere in the (Bahamas) kissing their arses so that they will get husbands by the seaside in the hot afternoon with on-lookers abi congregation members probably ‘speaking in tongues’ to scare the future husbands out of hiding, I was speechless and that’s a feat. Nothing had dumbfounded me in a long...

THE HUSBAND SNATCHER

While Watching the 86th Academy Awards, a tribute was given to winners of Honourary Oscars. Angelina Jolie was one for her humanitarian work. The camera captured as Brad Pitt leaned in and kissed her affectionately and she glowed as she looked up at him lovingly. Then I saw a tweet that simply said ‘ she’s still a husband-snatcher sha’. Momentarily I was lost; humanitarian work vs who she’s sleeping with? then realizing that we ultimately still judge people on their wrongs rather than focusing on their rights. Hey, that’s our default setting anyway and it is a vicious circle. Anyway, what really caught my attention was the fact that the label was for her alone. So I tweeted back, ‘ and he is a ..?’ Of course I have to...

TIPS FOR HUSBANDS AND HUSBANDS-TO-BE

Following up on the article, ‘When a man loves a woman’ I had read an article ‘how the wife should treat her husband’’ so decided to flip it. Rarely are tips given to men rather tips given to the woman all the blessed time! (Yes, I’m bitching). Any relationship has two players; each party has his and her role to play to ensure success. It is really tiring expecting that the success of the marriage lies with the woman at least 80%! We have been fed the lie and now it is the Holy Grail unfortunately. Let’s see. HOW THE HUSBAND SHOULD TREAT HIS WIFE. 1. Men need, want, crave, demand and work for respect; so also a woman wants, needs, and craves to be loved. Love begets respect. When loved, a woman blooms and she will do anything within and outside her...

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