MY LAST WILL AND TESTAMENT

Last week a potential business deal went awry. It started off so promising that it came as a surprise when we got to the ” not talking to you” stage.  Then it hit me: I understood what “suddenly” actually means. No warning and everything changes and that is what precisely happens to us all in life. There is nobody that had not been affected by “suddenly” no matter how innocuous the situation was.  Despite the experience of “suddenly” and seeing other people’s experience we fall prey to the aftermath. Yes, even “suddenly” falling in love can be avoided. Just look at the mess people become after it ends. Shouldn’t that be enough of a siren? But noooo, we prefer to believe bullshit like,...

A POSSESSION TILL DEATH

Aunt Yetunde’s husband had been dead for 10 years now. I was just leaving university when he died and I could feel the pain of my four cousins losing a father, a parent who loved them. Luckily for Aunt, one was about to graduate university, two were in secondary school and the baby of the house was in primary school. Things weren’t quite easy for Aunt as she reared her children the best way she could. I sometimes wonder how she did it. I also wondered why she hadn’t remarried especially since in those 10 years Uncle Dare had lost his wife, dated, remarried and sired two children! I was proud of my mum as I heard her often check up on Aunt Yetunde. I felt comforted that if I was ever a widow, my in-laws would check in on me, make me feel less...

AN OPEN LETTER TO MADIBA-BY CHRIS NGWODO, ABUJA DEBATE

Dear Madiba, I can’t tell you how disappointed I was by the recent disclosure that you had left only a miserly $4 million to be shared by your family, the African National Congress, former staff and several local schools. $4 million? Really? Is this supposed to be some kind of joke? With all due respect, sir, you should be ashamed of yourself. In my country, we have small time functionaries in obscure government offices performing miracles of self-enrichment with public funds on a scale that would impress Donald Trump and Richard Branson. You had a global brand and were regarded as a secular saint. You lived the ultimate fairy tale emerging from prison after 27 years to become president of one of the world’s biggest diamond-producing nations. Not since Joseph...

A PROBLEM-2: HIS KIDS, OUR MONEY.

Dear DSW, Can you please advice? I have been married to this man for 12 years. When I met him, he had practically nothing. I gave him the first seed money for his car business. He was able to make a moderate success out of it. Initially, he had said he was going to pay back the capital but later decided that I would be an equal partner in the business. I was making a very decent living as a caterer which I closed down and invested all my earnings and resources into the car dealership business. We do not have any children. About a week ago, I stumbled upon documents indicating that he had married another woman who he had given birth to two children for him; (I found both birth certificates). To say the least, I was stunned but quickly gathered myself together...

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