THE SINGLE NICE MAN AND THE SINGLE MOTHER

While chatting with a friend of mine, he shared his experiences in the dating pool. Initially, he said it had been discouraging. The females just didn’t seem to find him attractive enough and he wondered why. He had assessed himself; he wasn’t bad looking, feared God, had a decent job, spoke well, was open to being in a committed relationship and he was nice. One of the females that he had tried to convince that he was boyfriend material was ‘honest’ enough to tell him that he was “too nice” and this state of affairs constituted a problem. It has become an established fact that 99% of nice guys finish last or end up with ‘bitches’ (you get the general idea). A nice guy can be defined as marriage...

‘THIS IS WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR’

I thought long and hard on how to tackle this topic because of the ‘bastardization’ of the meaning of friend. I’m honestly ashamed. Being friends was such a noble relationship that could reach heights of intimacy that would make people looking in on such a friendship, green with envy. In the good old days, when we were still a bit innocent and more human, a friend referred to someone who; (1) liked you; (2) who wanted to know more about you hopefully with a view to understanding you (3) who knew your weaknesses and vulnerabilities and didn’t give in to the temptation to use them against you( a low form of cowardice) (4) who didn’t judge you (5) would do stuff for you (6) stood by you and was loyal irrespective. The cultivating of a friendship never took...

ACT LIKE A WOMAN, THINK LIKE A WOMAN

I have watched the movie, ‘Think like a man’ based on the book; ‘Act like a lady, think like a man’ four times so far since it was released in the cinema. I had no interest in watching it because of the title. Like really, how much thinking does a man do?? And about what? However my cousin who was visiting chose to watch it, so I had no option and boy, was it a revelation. Jennifer Hudson clarified the type of thinking in her song; (music)when in love (love, love, love) you gotta act like a woman but think like a man’. It is the best film of the year! Simple. Forget Avengers, MIB3 and co-all in someone’s head. This film hits several nails on the head and the hilarity and chemistry was so on point, the timing of this book must have been divine. If you...

THE ESSENCE OF FRIENDSHIP

Thankfully God made sure that as humans we would need each other. No man is an island is a favourite saying to sum it all up; whether it is in a marriage relationship, same sex platonic relationship, different sex platonic relationship, family relationships and the different mixes of relationships. As it is even with the longing for relationships, there some of us that move around as if we can truly do without relationships! So imagine if we didn’t have the need; the world would have been a cold, cold world. Friendship is simply identifying another human being to build up a relationship that speaks in all situations; good or bad. That friend that ‘gets’ you, let’s you be who you are without fear of being judged and misjudged, who is with you in all...

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