NIGERIAN ‘YOOTS’

When Emmanuel Macron won his country’s confidence to be their next President, Nigerian youth shouted for the umpteenth time how the youth need to take over the affairs of this country up to the Presidency, how they’ve been unfairly treated, blah, blah, blah. They were grieved. For sometime now, there has been chatter; attempts at building a coalition of youth, feeble protests that the youth of this country have not been given opportunities to hold political office and areas of responsibility. It didn’t help much that Emmanuel Macron is the President of France at 39! It just added salt to injury! Our elders have long been blamed for hogging the driver’s seat, using and disenfranchising the youth. They have been blamed for every evil that has...

THIS CRAZY THING CALLED LOVE

Let’s get it out of the way; I don’t believe in love. Frankly speaking, if you ask me to explain what I mean, I wouldn’t be able to put it in words. That’s the beauty of the whole thing. While people explain that “love is a feeling, you feel that you’ve never felt before” or something cliche like that. ( people tend to feel like that at least twice in their lifetime!). My inability to explain my disbelief feels pretty much the same way; inexplicable. Lust is what we mostly define as love anyway; you know” that feeling that you’ve never felt before”…..( that you will feel again and again and again before you die). In our (adopted) culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all...

WHO IS A PROSTITUTE?

Someone(the someone being a man) coined a word “prostitute” and defined it as” a person, typically female who performs sexually for payment”. Another definition even adds two more names that further express the intent of the acts; a woman who engages in sexual intercourse for money; whore; harlot.” Great; now that we know what the definition is, who is a prostitute in practice. I have grown increasingly tired of men hurling the word at us in rage as the ultimate insult and debasing of a female. The day that a man ventured to call me a prostitute was the last time he did and it was the last time I viewed it as the ultimate insult. For him to know or perceive I was a prostitute, he had either encountered a few of them...

THE SINGLE NICE MAN AND THE SINGLE MOTHER

While chatting with a friend of mine, he shared his experiences in the dating pool. Initially, he said it had been discouraging. The females just didn’t seem to find him attractive enough and he wondered why. He had assessed himself; he wasn’t bad looking, feared God, had a decent job, spoke well, was open to being in a committed relationship and he was nice. One of the females that he had tried to convince that he was boyfriend material was ‘honest’ enough to tell him that he was “too nice” and this state of affairs constituted a problem. It has become an established fact that 99% of nice guys finish last or end up with ‘bitches’ (you get the general idea). A nice guy can be defined as marriage...

COMPLETE SHADES OF HONESTY.

So on Monday Angela my friend who works at 106.3WE FM asked if I would be a guest on her show to talk about sex in light of Fifty Shades of Grey. For those who haven’t read the book (I have the trilogy), it is an over glorified more explicit Mills and Boons book (girls and some boys remember?) focusing on the world of Sadomasochism. As over-glorified and as cheesy as it could get, it clearly struck a chord with people worldwide even above other books in the same genre making the New York Best Seller List! There is even a film adaptation in the works (I’m not sure the actors they have shortlisted can bring the much needed heat to the screen…*shrugs shoulders*). Anyway, the angle that she wanted to talk about had to do with wives having their sexual...

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